Give not thy strength unto women, nor thy ways to that which destroyeth kings (Proverbs 31:3KJV).
These are the words of King Lemuel; from the prophecy that his mother taught him.
King Lemuel’s mother gave his son loads of wisdom but interestingly she begins by telling her son about women and coming from a woman who was a mother tells us the propensity of this matter.
King Lemuel’s mother likened that which destroys kings to giving your strength to women. The message bible puts her words this way;
Don’t dissipate your virility on fortune-hunting women, promiscuous women who shipwreck leaders (Proverbs 31:3 MSG).
This article may seem to be a little gender biased but that is not the goal and also coming from a woman (King Lemuel’s mother’s words) I believe the ladies too can take a cue from this.
Let’s take note of that wording used, unto women (plural) not unto a woman, (single). I am saying this because when you read the subsequent verses, Lemuel’s mother speaks of a virtuous woman.
“Who can find a virtuous woman, she says, for her price is far above rubies” (Proverbs 31:10).
The virtuous woman rather multiplies the strength of a man and His strength comes back to Him renewed. Why? because Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come (Proverbs 31:25).
Who is a virtuous woman then; a virtuous woman from Lemuel’s mother is
- a good woman.
- a woman who fears the Lord.
- Most importantly a virtuous woman is a wife of valor.
Definitely King Lemuel’s mother might have heard about King Solomon’s failure and downfall (the wisest man to ever have lived).
Solomon’s lust for women, led him to assemble seven hundred wives and three hundred concubines. His love and lust for women eventually led to his downfall as strange women turned his heart away from God (1 Kings 11:1-4).
When I was writing this piece I got a little fascinated especially about Solomon, because this man in scripture demonstrated such wisdom that people travelled from afar just to hear him speak.
Yet, Solomon in all his wisdom was not too wise to handle the effect of having so many women around him. It was never God’s will for his life to get involved with so many women.
Neither was it so from the beginning, have you ever asked yourself why God didn’t form Eve and perhaps Rebecca for Adam because after all Adam was perfect and was sinless, he had God’s very own image.
But God in His wisdom knew that just one was enough. Brother! Eve is enough, Adam even had a hard time dealing with one, how much more two or more. Polygamy was never God’s original idea, it came in after man fell.
Your strength is to handle one woman, you can’t go beyond that, no matter how wise you may be.
Even Solomon, in all his wisdom failed, so who are you and my point was more buttressed when I bumped into a research made from a Dutch study in 2009;
that attractive women can literally derail a man’s cognitive functioning.
I concluded here that Adam was even caught in this trap, he was so charmed by Eve’s beauty that He forgot what God told him. How do we know Eve was beautiful; certainly because she was the first woman to be created in a perfect world; with no sickness or disease, just imagine!
Secondly from Adam’s own words when he saw Eve; in fact Adam prophesied immediately he woke up from the deep sleep. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man (Genesis 2:23 KJV).
Sometimes we forget that Adam was with Eve when the serpent tempted Eve yet Adam spoke not a word to Eve but rather followed her footsteps to also eat of the fruit. See Genesis 3:6;
And when the woman saw that the tree was good for food, and that it was pleasant to the eyes, and a tree to be desired to make one wise, she took of the fruit thereof, and did eat, and gave also unto her husband with her; and he did eat.
Interesting isn’t,it? Adam was with her all that while. A woman’s charm is not only deceptive but is very powerful, so again I concluded here that;
The only thing that can really save a man from a woman’s charm especially in a relationship is when the woman herself knows and fears the Lord.
My brothers; we all find ourselves in the same soup, because men are mostly moved by what they see; and if a lady can tap into the emotions, resisting the charm of women can be very difficult. If men will dissipate any energy on a woman let it be on that woman who fears the Lord and most importantly on the wife of his youth.
because charm can mislead and beauty soon fades but the woman to be admired and praised is the woman who lives in the Fear-of-God.